Transforming Power of Forgiveness

The Transforming Power of Forgiveness

I get an average of 40 email questions a day regarding the spiritual life. Most questions of “why” or “how’ indicate the need to escape from facing the truth of what-is happening. Looking at what-is, is the fastest way to understand by looking at it directly. Thus, trying to figure out “why” or “how’ are ego ways to avoid looking directly. This escape is a ‘natural’ act of the ego which exacerbates the problems.
The most powerful solution to daily conflicts, problems, misunderstandings, and negativity is forgiveness.

The word ‘forgiveness’ is reviled by the ego and respected by the heart. Thus from the emails I get there seem to be two problems about forgiveness. First is the fear of forgiveness because of the ego’s need to retaliate or validate one’s suffering.
Second is the mind’s inability to understand how to forgive or what is implied by it.

Our lifetime script is already determined with its ‘highs’ and ‘lows’ plus ‘accidents.’ This script is not set in stone unless the human ignores forgiving, then what was determined happens on ‘schedule.’
Before we get into the secret of forgiveness let’s see some of the transforming power of it. Forgiveness actually collapses time in our favor so that any karmic consequence due us such as an ‘accident’ or painful experience is bypassed.

To understand this karmic life there has to be the mental grasp of what is called ‘Unconscious Guilt.’ This unconscious guilt is a discomfort most people live with believing it is the way life is. They go about life feeling this inner discomfort and try to find either a reason for it or try to get rid of it. Nothing works because guilt is not something you can put your finger on. It is like having a pebble in your shoe and any attempt to remove it fails since you can’t find the pebble. So, you learn to live with it.

What is this unconscious guilt?

It is unconscious because it is deeply set within the psyche. It is known as ‘guilt’ because it carries with it feelings of separation and the need to be important, to be special or to stand out and be noticed. Within its needs lies a feeling of ‘not being good enough’ combined with the subtle feeling that you are missing something or lacking something. At times it even feels as if you are ‘bad.’ These feelings everyone has regardless of station in life and it is unconscious so that it nags you without knowing what it is.
This unconscious guilt is so heinous that it leads often to suicide when it is kept frozen inside us. Most people know about suicide but they have no idea how widespread it is. In the book “Your Immortal Reality” it points out that more people die from suicide than are killed by all the wars and all of the crime in the world combined. More firefighters die from suicide than are killed in fires. Policemen also suffer from this unconscious guilt and many die from suicide. Nobody wants to talk about it because the feeling of ‘guilt’ is so close to us. Depression in all its forms is derived from unconscious guilt. The ego runs away from looking at it as fast as possible.

What creates this unconscious guilt? The reason is simple enough. From the time we are 3 years old we start feeling and believing that we are our name and body and thus, unconsciously, create the feeling we are separate. We have totally forgotten that we are One Being or Oneness itself. And, it is this very estrangement from this fact that allows the unconscious guilt to make its way into our life. This guilt-feeling carries with it self-consciousness, ego pretension, and the need for love (power or approval.), the need to be heard, seen, noticed and recognized. This need for ego recognition comprises the emotional and psychological suffering of humanity.

What is ego?
It is the belief that you are a body and therefore separate from others. Therefore ego is what creates unconscious guilt feeling. Most people live a whole lifetime believing they are this ego and never even question it. Such people can never find true peace and inner security and contentment.

Forgiveness helps us in two ways. First it keeps the guilty feeling out of the picture, and while doing so, moves us closer to our true nature. Every forgiveness of discomfort enhances our oneness knowing.
Forgiveness cuts through unconscious guilt and its projection of karma like a laser beam. It penetrates through all of your past lives and even future lives, through the different dimensions of time.

How do we forgive?

First of all, it is hard to forgive unless you know that you are NOT an ego. All worthwhile spiritual literature carries this basic theme – ego is the false self. Ego is the self-made image from conditioned past believing it is ‘YOU.’
Ego wants to hang on to pain and hates to forgive. In fact, ego will want to retaliate, seek revenge and get even in any way it can. Thus it creates karma of a serious nature in one’s life. Ego belief is also written within your life-script. Thus the script contains the tragedies, mishaps, accidents and awful experiences that stem from the belief in ego.

So, one primary ingredient for forgiveness is knowing who you are. It is not difficult if you pay close attention to the following question.
Ask yourself right now, “Do you know yourself?” and then pause for a moment before answering. This pause will give you an opening to LISTEN through your Heart.

Good – now that you have asked it and paused for a moment, what was your answer? Don’t read further until you have answered it.

The Heart replies:
“You are the knower of your body, senses and mind. You know that you have a body and mind. However, this knower can never be known, because you are it and there is nobody to know it. It can never become an object of observation because it is totality, wholeness, Oneness itself.”

This is who you are – the knower! You are NOT the body, senses, mind nor thoughts and emotions. In fact, these emotions, thoughts (mind) and body appear only because there is ‘YOU.’ You are NOT an ego but the knower.

Pause and feel what you have just read because only through this process can you grasp the power and ease of forgiveness. And, forgiveness will take you all the way Home. Every time you forgive your guilt, you move one step closer to your true Home of Oneness. Oneness is like peeling an onion. You might not notice the depth of the peeling because it looks like the same onion; however within every peel you’ll be moving closer to the center called Home with each peeling (forgiveness).

Understanding Cause and Effect

How do I forgive? You learn how forgiveness works as you recognize that you are not an Effect of a major Cause (Oneness); You are the Cause itself. It is you, the Cause, which predetermined your life’s script. It is You who created the life you live. You cannot be an Effect because then you’d be like a victim. Since most people feel that they are effects of the Source (Cause) then they play victims in life and bemoan their lot. Through forgiveness, seeing expands and reveals (ever deepening) that you can override the pre-determined script by forgiving (what you normally would not have forgiven) and thus transcend the karmic consequences that might have been due you. In other words, forgiveness collapses time as we know linear time. Time doesn’t exist except in our linear thinking. All physicists agree that past, present and future happen simultaneously because we live in a holographic universe. It is from this understanding that forgiveness becomes a natural process.

If someone maligns us or takes advantage of our position we see that we created that so-called individual in our life script. By forgiving him or her we rise above the consequences of such unforgiveness and thus retain our peace and make the path free from obstruction.
Therefore seeing that this ‘other’ created a ‘problem’ for you, you in turn see no problem only something you created in your life script leading you toward forgiveness. In other words, we learn by forgiving both ‘others’ and ourselves in seeing that there’s nothing to forgive.

The Ultimate Truth
In brief – the ultimate truth of our Being is what threatens and frightens the ego. If you are a novice to the spiritual life you will find yourself, automatically, asking many questions filled with ‘but, but…” or “what-if…” plus filled with ‘why’ and ‘how’ questions. This is natural until we start becoming familiar with what truly IS the Truth of our Being. The Truth is what is true and to escape it, ignore it or deny it is our unconscious guilt.

The paradox is that the Truth of our Being is so glorious, wholesome and beautiful that initially we haven’t the slightest idea of this grandeur.

All we see at first is the threat to our ego and that’s because of the unconscious guilt of separation-thinking.
The ultimate truth is this – this daily life is all a dream and the only way to wake up from this dream is to forgive it. Why!? It is you who made it up with the egoic belief in separation from the Oneness. You are NOT an effect of Source but Source itself -- this is what Oneness means. All is One Source and YOU are IT! We live in a holographic universe and not linear time.
Forgiveness is ‘seeing’ the Truth as what-is and can’t be denied, suppressed, rejected, resisted or controlled. This seeing-clearly is itself quantum forgiveness and it undoes the ego. Once the ego is seen as false and therefore non-existent then we are free and at Home.

Is forgiveness the only way to undo the ego and transcend our unconscious guilt?
Forgiveness has also been taught as acceptance, allowing, letting go and surrender. However forgiveness is more direct in its meaning. It is a way of SEEING the truth of NOW as what truly is! It is seeing that you are not really forgiving anyone for we create the ‘other’ in our unawareness of Oneness. What ‘others’ do to us is what we have asked for in our separate-thinking activated by unconscious guilt. Therefore forgiveness is knowing that there’s nothing to forgive. It is this ‘knowing’ alone that will help us rise above the false idea of ego and find the glorious truth of our Being.

Are there levels to understanding forgiveness?
Ordinarily I would say ‘no’ because it is a feeling-knowing of the heart that there’s nothing to forgive since only Spirit is real and everything else is its effect. However, for understanding its deeper aspects we can divide the comprehension of forgiveness on three levels.
1. The Face in the Mirror: This first level is for those who still believe they are an ego and live in separation thus forgiveness seems like an effort and something to ‘do’.
Picture looking into the mirror and look at the face in front of you in the mirror. Ask yourself, “Is that who I am or is it just a reflection?” “If I shave, do I shave the mirror’s face? If I crack the mirror with my reflection do I crack my face also?” Since both questions are ‘no’ then a reflection is just a reflection and has nothing to do with the truth. Make sure that you fully see the import of this obvious presentation.
If this example felt obvious to you then go to level #2 below.

2. Thoughts and emotions: This is slightly more advanced and if when under stress or anger you still don’t want to forgive then you are on this level. You have made the thoughts and emotions so real that you are caught in them and wish to hold on to them despite the pain and suffering. However, it is still a step closer than #1 because even though you might not want to forgive, you can still go through the motion of forgiving that you’re not wanting to forgive.

When we think and indulge in thought we become the thinker of that thought (ego). Similarly when we identify with an emotion (which is thought made real) we get caught in it and suffer to that extent. This also means that when you identify with an emotion you go unconscious and may lose control because you are deluded. If during this unconsciousness you ask, “Where is this emotion right now?” it would be like awakening from a dream and you won’t find the emotion anywhere. Look deeply for it and you won’t find it except as a residue from its physical sensation. If this question has been raised by you and you succeeded in seeing that there was no such thought or emotion, then you are ready for #3 below.

3. Am I the body? Be still and look at your body and ask if you are this body. Twenty years ago you weren’t this body and neither when you were a teenager or a baby.
Ask, “Who is it that says I have this body?” It couldn’t be the body who says that? What part of you says, “I have!” Where is that “I” and the knower that knows you have a body and thoughts and emotions? Can you name it? Can you taste it or touch it? Can you see it or feel it? Of course not, simply because it is YOU.
How can YOU see yourself? Can the eyes see themselves? Can the lips kiss themselves? You can’t know it but yet you know it’s there. It is this unknown in YOU which is the Truth of you. This is your Cause, your oneness, the Truth. It is the connection with ALL-That IS!
This is the AWARE part of you that witnesses your actions, thoughts, emotions and feelings. It is the YOU that is eternal and unchanging. It is the YOU that is innocent, guiltless, complete and wholesome.
If you have understood this, then you understand forgiveness. Forgiveness is not a ‘doing’ but the understanding that there’s nothing to forgive because whatever you experience is Oneness experiencing and therefore cannot blame, judge or pay back anyone without suffering the brand of it. This is why what goes around comes around. This is why karmic action is infallible. This is why that how we are treated by ‘others’ is our projection. Believe it or not, it is our auric field and thought power (belief) that creates others to treat us in such a way that we do not like. Therefore you do not forgive yourself or another – you see clearly there’s nothing to forgive and it’s done and cleared from its karmic consequences.
Through this quantum forgiveness you erase all consequences from your past actions and beliefs and even clean out any future consequences. This type of forgiveness is so powerful that it collapses time as we know it so that any karma that was due us will be erased. More importantly, it will create such intuitive knowing that knowing our Oneness becomes automatic love and connection.


Please Note: The following has been added after I received a sweet honest question from a young man (which also reflected others who read the above…

I don't want to ask how to forgive because it said in one of your PDF's that the question is asked to avoid forgiveness, but it would be helpful if you could explain how I use the question to put it off. The difficulty is that your words may be very plain but If I'm unconsciously rejecting the truth it may not all get to me.. what a pickle.

It has been said that the ego is at best suspicious and avoiding (denial) and at worst is vicious and destructive. Most of the time when we ask, “Why?” is because we want to delay facing the truth of our Being nature. It was Alan Watts who said (over forty years ago) that when we say, “I don’t feel it” or “I am waiting to realize it” is a delaying tactic of the ego NOT to feel it and thus not have to face it.
This is understandable from the human point of view, after all, we have been conditioned to believe the world and body are real and our spiritual nature is something that we learn in religion and is not practical or ‘down-to-earth’ enough to bother with. How often we say, “Let’s get back to reality” meaning daily life as we know it.

It took me many years to see something quite simple – either it is true or it isn’t! If Spirit is our true nature and our senses do not perceive it aren’t we creating delusion, suffering and separation from what is real? What if we have deeper insightful senses that can be awakened if we just LISTEN? What if we allow the possibility of an open heart here and now to check who is doing the LIFE we are?

The question, “How do I use ‘why’ to put it off?” is a legitimate question. Have you ever been in an accident that left you temporarily helpless and said, “Why me?” because we didn’t want to face the fact that it happened? It is the human part of us that lives from its surface (shallow perspective) that doesn’t want to look deeper than its conditioned state of belief. It is afraid of the unknown.

Now the question that follows is, “How do we forgive our escapes, denials, fears of the unknown and so on?”
Let’s review what we had just read on pages 7 and 8 discussing the three levels of understanding forgiveness. Please read again level one page 7 where it states “The Face in the mirror.” Please do not go to the next level until you first grasp level one.

The term “Face in the mirror” typifies our perception of things. We see our face in the mirror and believe that it is seeing the truth of us. The reflection is very deceptive. If we shave our beard we cannot use the reflection to do it. If the mirror cracks our face doesn’t crack. The reflection is just a reflection. This point has to be planted firmly in your understanding.
Similarly, what we perceive outside ourselves is our conditioned perception which is a reflection of our mind. Thus if we see a person we don’t like, it is because we are seeing ‘what we believe about that person and NOT the truth of that person. We are seeing our reflection of that person. The reflection is of the mind and NOT truth.
Two people can look at the same painting and see different things. What we see is the belief of our conditioned thoughts. Therefore, once we realize this we are apt to forgive our conditioned perceptions as our own limited viewpoint and NOT reality.
If we have understood this far then we are ready for level 2 of forgiveness which is…

Thoughts and emotions reflect our conditioned perception: Now we are moving deeper into the understanding of quantum forgiveness. Here at this point you are still reluctant to forgive because you have been so conditioned by your emotions that you are convinced they are real. How real are your negative emotions?

We have learned that we perceive externally what we have accepted as real in our thought structure. Thoughts are picture (image) impressions that occur by the hundreds in a blink of an eye. This is what creates our world of perception. We think about 26,000 thoughts a day and they are just conditioned impressions from the past. They are just impressions. The moment we hang on to a thought and believe it, we have created an emotion (motion of energy in the body). The body is an emotional energy body. We feel the sensations of anything that we believe as real. Our heart beats faster, our gut wrenches and our stomach churns by anything that reminds us of a traumatic past. A trauma is a subconscious memory that has become frozen in our center and now dictates how we experience life. With each occurrence of anxiety we deepen its ‘reality’ within our psyche until we start becoming ‘unbalanced’ or dysfunctional. It is all a delusion that seems real. At this point of attachment to such emotions we become totally convinced that it is real and it’s called ‘addiction’ or ‘fixation’ or ‘phobia’ or just hysteria. The point is this – it is absolutely NOT real except in our mind. We feel its pain; we feel its suffering in the emotional body and we feel it as a tangible experience – the fact of the matter is this – we created it all however subconsciously and that’s what we need to forgive. In other words, we are experiencing our mind and NOT Reality. This understanding will give us the courage to look again at what we call ‘real’ and it is this willingness to look that takes us to the 3rd level of forgiveness.

Am I the body? When we read this question we react and without any depth of seeing exclaim, “Of course I am the body!!”
Let’s take it easy and look at it realistically from the vantage point of what is real or just temporary.
When we state something is not real doesn’t mean we are not experiencing it. It means that it is not lasting and meaningful other than an appearance for the sake of unfolding our true nature.
For a moment be still and ask, “Am I this body now?” And you will find that your body now seems very real but it is a moving fluctuating and ever-changing function. Twenty years ago your body was different, totally different. It was also totally different when you were a baby; a teenager and a young man or woman. This body now seems real but it is only temporary and will soon recycle again or pass away.
As you now look at your body, ask yourself, “Who is it that says I have this body?” It couldn’t be the body that says, “I am this body?” so there is some other part of YOU that says, “I have this body!” and who is that? Who is it that says, “I have?”
Can you name this part that says, “I have this body?” Is it something you are aware of? Of course not! This part that says, “I have this body!” is the very awareness that you are. And, it is the knower that you have a body. Therefore, you cannot know it because there is no ‘you’ to know the thing that knows. After all, can the lips kiss themselves? Can the eyes see themselves? Of course not. You are that ‘knower’ often referred to as ‘heart’ or true essence. Therefore isn’t it obvious that you are the pure awareness that sees and experiences? Can you see now that you are a human being, but it is the Being that sees itself as a human? You are a Being playing the human role.

If you have understood this much then you are ready to forgive so completely that it becomes an instant healing of suffering, fear and guilt. Why? Because forgiveness is not forgiving anyone or anything but seeing clearly that there’s nothing to forgive. Whatever happened was the cause of mind’s conditioned perception and NOT reality.
Now that you have read this – stop and lay it aside. Then read again before going to bed and ask the Holy Spirit (I AM) to guide you in its deeper and more profound seeing. If you are open and receptive to it, then something in you (pure awareness or the I AM) will bring you insights. This is up to you now. You have the choice to see ego (human) or Being (God).

God is all that’s good, forgiving, glory, beauty, immortality, eternality, joy, Heaven, happiness and meaning. God did not create the world. The Mind created the world. When we awaken our deeper perception of our limited mind’s seeing, then it extends deeper and deeper until we see that we are the Cause and not the Effect. This is called Awakening.


How do we find our specific unconscious guilt?

There are three facts we need to know first before embarking on forgiveness of our guilt.

1. First, know that everyone suffers from unconscious guilt unless they are spiritually awakened. After all, what is awakening? Isn’t it the death of the ego (separation) belief which brought the unconscious guilt?

2. Unconscious guilt is NOT the truth of you. No matter how you feel this guilt, it is all an illusion made real through unawareness of your true nature as Oneness. Unconscious guilt is a form of death such as closed mind and heart, cynicism, strong doubt about your true nature, loss of innocence, worldliness, fear of getting hurt, fear of being vulnerable, fear of rejection, fear of loss and the fear of death. The more guilt you feel, the less alive you feel. Conversely, as you forgive your guilt, the more alive you feel.

3. There are nine types of unconscious guilt. Everyone feels separate initially due to the hypnotic belief “I am the body.” This belief in being a body separates you automatically from other bodies missing the Spirit that joins us all as One. Thus we feel unloved often due to this unconscious belief in separation known as loneliness, deprivation, isolation, and self-consciousness.

This separation-feeling creates the need to belong; a need to feel loved; a need for a mate and it is all triggered by this unconscious search for Oneness (God).

Since there is no awareness of this Oneness and yet subconsciously crave it through needing, seeking and desiring then it takes the form of our personality, temperament and type expression. It is here, through these nine types that we find the guilt that is created by needing what we already are but don’t know it. Thus this seeking and needing creates its opposite.

Here is a list of all nine types of guilt and how it is created through seeking Oneness (God). Let me repeat here for the sake of elucidation that there is absolutely no knowledge that we are seeking Oneness (God, Love, Wholeness, Home). So instead we call it money, power, control, fame, success, security, sex and emotional love.

Let me say this – since your true nature is already Spirit and therefore love (Oneness), goodness, innocence and glory then any seeking of it means you don’t believe you are IT and it is this that creates the unconscious guilt.

The Nine types of Guilt

1. The perfectionist: You value and are attracted to goodness. Goodness is your search for Oneness (God). You want to make the world a better pace to live in. You want to realize all of your potential and help others actualize theirs.
You have appreciation for and a dedication to excellence and doing things well. You long for perfection.

GUILT is created by over-identifying with the idealized self-image of being good, right and perfect. These become more important than anything else. If you are a good girl or good boy, then you are acceptable.
You are afraid to do anything unless you can do it perfectly. Your guilt is perfectionism. You are hardly ever fully satisfied or fully happy.
Forgive yourself whenever you feel imperfect and blaming yourself or others.


2. The Lover: You value and are attracted to love. You want to make the world a more lovable place to live in.
You are naturally a giving, generous, helpful person. You enjoy giving to others. You are generous with yourself, time, energy and possessions.
You are supportive, nurturing and considerate.

GUILT – You over identify with the idealized self-image of being loving and helpful. You are acceptable only if you are loving and nice.
You can become a compulsive helper. You give love to gain attention and approval. You expect appreciation in return for your care.
Guilt arises from being manipulative towards others to like you by giving strokes to get strokes. You even try to make others dependent upon you and thus get hurt easily and disappointed.
Forgive yourself whenever you seek approval, which is often incessant and yet subtle.


3. The achiever: You are attracted to and value efficiency, productivity, industriousness and competence. You possess a natural organizational ability. You have the ability to get things done. You often make a good salesperson.

GUILT – You can over-identify with the idealized self-image of being successful and productive such that your worth depends on what you do instead of who you are.
You can become overly efficient, machine-like and ultra programmed. You become a marketing personality and therefore worldly losing sight of Oneness.
Forgive yourself when worldly goals are used to pretend you are spiritual.


4. The individual: You are individual and value originality. You put your personal touch on everything you are involved in.
You have an ability to make the ordinary extraordinary. You can take what is plain and make it special, like an oyster changes a grain of sand into a pearl.
You value beauty and appreciate it and thus want to make the world more beautiful aesthetically.

GUILT – You can over-identify with the idealized self-image of being special and unique. You may become an eccentric caricature of originality.
You believe you must be unique, original, different; otherwise you are nobody. Your identity and worth depend on your being special.
Guilt is in not feeling special and thus insist in having your own way or be in control to prove yourself special in your own eyes.
Forgive yourself when wanting your own way at all costs or the need to control. Be alert to anger or any held-in grievance. Keep forgiving.


5. The scholar: You value and are attracted to wisdom, knowledge and understanding. For you, the intellect is a person’s highest faculty. You feel, “I think therefore I am.”
Your passion is of the mind. You are a seeker of truth. You want to discover what truly is.

You can over-identify with the idealized self-image of being wise and perceptive. You live too much out of your head and you forget you have also feelings and a heart.
You can be overly intellectual and thus be afraid of being out of touch with how you feel. You can become overly analytical and skeptical. Your questioning can interfere with your acting.

GUILT is the separation from others and preferring aloneness as you become unwilling to entertain other people’s views that may differ from yours. You may even stop participating in life.
Forgive when you find yourself intolerable, closed-off or too intellectual forsaking feelings.


6. The loyal: You are attracted to and value loyalty. You honor your commitments.
When you give your word you keep it. If you say you’ll do something, you’ll do it. You are faithful to relationships. You make a gracious host or hostess. You are protective of those in your care.
You are dedicated to your cause.

You can over-identify with the idealized self-image of being loyal and doing your duty. Many soldiers, firemen and policemen are in this category.
You go by the book and become rigid and inflexible. It may be difficult for you to change or reconsider your loyalties. Things become either black or white and no in-between. You may accept those in your fold but you can become a persecutor of those outside the fold.
Be wary in your marriage and any relationship as you can become too strict with how things should be and create strain.
Forgive yourself when you find getting locked into your rules of how things should be.


7 The Optimist: For you the purpose of life is to enjoy it. You value joy. There is delight, sparkle and joie de vivre about you.
You are a celebrator of life.
Everything is recognized as a gift. You have a childlike responsiveness to the world. You are in touch with the immediacy of things.

You can over-identify with the idealized self-image of being okay. You can overdo the pleasure principle and become overly attached to pleasure. You can become addicted to ‘highs.’
You may not be willing to endure hard labor to get what you want.
Guilt can emerge from being unable to handle emotional people especially difficult ones and would rather avoid them than deal with them.
Forgive yourself when difficult people or emotional people dampen your spirits and control you.

8. The Powerful: You are attracted to and appreciate power. You know how to get it, keep it and use it. You use your influence to bring about good. You make a strong leader like a matriarch or a patriarch. You are self-confident and self-assured.
You can over-identify with the idealized self-image of being powerful and capable.
You can easily become addicted to power and control and rely on it to manipulate others. You use your power to protect yourself instead of to help others. Therefore you can become a bully, a dictator. Your presence can be over-bearing and intimidating.
Guilt – you can harbor great anger and aggression and even hatred and thus can use forgiveness in these instances.


9. The Peace Lover: You value peace which is the tranquility of order. You have an intuitive sense and appreciation for harmony, for when things fit together.
You possess diplomacy. You are able to reconcile opposing forces and can see both sides of an issue.
You have an allowing approach to life which encourages people and events to unfold in their own way and at their own pace.
You can over-identify with this idealized self-image of being settled and avoid any kind of conflict.
You can overdo agreement. You experience ambivalence about whether to agree or disagree, to conform or not to conform. You find it hard to find the perfect balance.
You find it difficult choosing a position or taking sides. You can be indecisive or put off making any decision.

Guilt is experienced when you meet conflict or anger either within you or outside you. You find it hard to confront conflict head-on. This is your guilt. Forgive this feeling every time you are aware of it. In fact any discomfort you feel is to be forgiven otherwise it builds as inner resentment creating frustration and deep anxiety.

In brief:
You are a human being. In this world of illusion we emphasize the human and forget the Being because we feel separate as bodies. In this forgetting and abiding by the world’s rules we find a feeling of lack known as unconscious guilt. This guilt is the result of separation between human (ego) and Being (God). This guilt is known as the feeling of unrest, seeking, wanting, desiring and never satisfied with the subtle nagging that we are missing something and/or don’t feel good enough. If these feelings are not dealt with they can escalate to immense suffering.

Our only freedom is the realization of our true nature which emerges as the result of forgiving our unconscious guilt which surfaces as suspicious nature, doubtful, skeptical and resentful and often escalating to viciousness, inner rage, violence and deep hate often ending in self-destruction.

Awareness of our true nature combined with forgiveness is the simplest, fastest and most direct route towards inner fulfillment, freedom and lasting peace.