What everyone ought to know about relationships!

Whether we face it or not, one of the greatest problems, if not the greatest, is human relationships. I’m inundated worldwide with questions regarding relationships. What you are about to read is exciting and an illuminating way to learn about relationships.
I felt inspired to write this booklet when a psychotherapist, who has also written about relationships, asked me what could be the core essence that was missing in fully grasping the significance of relationships between man and woman, that is , beyond “men from Mars and women from Venus” and other writings on co-dependence. This psychotherapist being himself a nonduality follower wanted to know my feelings on the subject. This intriqgued me and the fact that I get so many emails on the subject of relationships opened the door for this booklet.

The following is based not only on my own experience as a hypnotherapist of 35 years but also the major shift that happened in the year 2000 combined with teachings from A Course in Miracles and Michael’s teachings.

I started my search after experiencing Bhagavan Ramana Maharshi’s vision and teaching. As a result I became a staunch advaitist and focused on non-duality. To me this was the ultimate truth and anything else was redundant. My talks emphasized the awareness of the moment as the only reality and everything else was unnecessary in our life. The human part was treated as part of the individual mind and therefore unreal. The word ‘soul’ which is really individuated mind, a fragment of universal mind, was no longer a part of my vocabulary. Bhagavan and Buddha never discussed the word ‘soul.’ This journey for me was clear, uncluttered and simple. Whenever a relationship proved to be too emotional I would just discard it as illusory. My life was successful and even had a brief TV series of my own.
I was detached from the illusion of human negative emotions. This was the truth and there was no world ‘out there’ of seeming time and space but my own perception of it. This was also discovered by scientists and quantum physics and so I was on fair ground established in reality. This was my detached life for 27 years and had experienced peace.

In the year 2000 I found myself attracted to someone who moved into my apartment leaving behind her career in graphic design, two teenage boys sent to theit dad, a house, a car and a wonderful dog. All left behind in Denver, Colorado. The first few days and weeks were good but soon the impact of what had taken place began its toll on her sensitive emotional nature. Unconsciously she was missing her sons, her car, her independence, her dog and the facing of uncertain future in Canada without citizenship. There would be times when she would burst into anger for no apparent reason as far as I was concerned and I would treat it with advaitic detachment. After all, I reasoned, she will soon see all this illusion for what it is and adjust.

One fateful day she “lost it” emotionally and the more detached I was, the greater became her anguished fury. She lashed out with fierce violence and the more calm I was the worse it became. I didn’t know what to do and walked into the bathroom locking the door. Then it hit me that I cared for this woman deeply and she was suffering. If suffering was so real to her what good was my detached calmness, after all, where is sensitivity? Where is compassion? What good was I in a moment when she needed reassurance and comfort and security? What good was I in this situation?
All the ‘truth’ I had studied and placed so much importance on was not available to me then. My ‘peace’ was not real but simply conditioned and programmed by so much reading and study. While I focused on her and for a moment stepped in her shoes, I began to FEEL deep pain and it was good to FEEL it.
I raised my hands and pleaded to Bhagavan, “Please help me as I don’t know what to do?”
I cried, and then saw myself in the mirror and suddenly saw Burt for the first time. A strange feeling came over me as if I had just worn this body, and was temporarily entranced by my arms dangling by my side and a head sticking out from my upper body between my shoulders. A few seconds later a fear gripped me as I experienced this strange new world, however, right then and there it was as if everything disappeared in the bathroom and was thrown into endless space seeing that I was Light. I was a human being – a Being playing the human role of Burt. In those few moments everything became crystal clear and I learned more in those few moments than the whole 27 years of advaitic teachings and practices. It was so incredibly simple and clear that everything and everyone was myself.
I felt such peace and clarity that words were not possible. I could not communicate this to anyone but my partner knew something had happened.
There are seven billion humans on this earth but only One Being, and the mystery is this – YOU are that Being here and now as you read this. It is this awakening of playing the human role that we finally grasp the meaning of relationship.

What is a relationship? A better question would be – what is NOT a relationship? Since everything is One Being playing the role of 7 billion humans and other creatures, then we are all related. This relationship is called LOVE.
Here are some basic facts on relationships:
• Relationships are karmic since nothing happens by chance and there are no accidents.
• Every relationship brings us precious lessons in love. When we do not learn these lessons than we repeat them untl we do.
• We have taken on a human form to experience the emotional body and through such direct experience we ‘attain’ the highest – our Being.
• The human is always seeking, desiring, needing and wanting. It only experiences brief moments of happiness when it is engaged in true love relationship without neediness. The question is, “What is the human really seeking through another? – Here’s the answer – it is seeking itself, it’s own BEING.
• Being is ONENESS and yet it is your true HOME. Everyone is homesick and that’s why we all seek a good relationship without knowing it. When you find love, you find your home.
• A true relationship is a Holy Relationship and therefore is not needy, has no expectations nor demands but allows full freedom, love and forgiveness. Such a relationship is Heaven on earth.
• So many people crave soul-mates believing that such a meeting brings heaven-on-earth. The truth is that a soul-mate is the one who will teach you the most about yourself. In most cases it is the most painful.
• When neediness develops in a relationship, it is because the needy one has unresolved issues and thus feels that the partner might fulfill them.
• Our worst fears arise during relationships such as fear of loss, fear of rejection, fear of death of yourself or partner and so on. These fears arise to be met. Relationships are a mirror of these fears.
• When you refuse to run away from your fear, when you decide to stay with the perfection of your BEING then a vaster vision will come to you.
• If you look only at your fear then you will miss your vast Being. The minute you ask for a vision, for release, for understanding, for peace of heart, you will realize that your present difficulty is only a small part of you and the rest is going great. When you fully accept and embrace the fear as something that is going to make you stronger and more evolved then that’s what will happen.
• Fear in a relationship means that your need is not being met by you. What is it that I need that I am not getting? And you’ll see that it is a need you never gave yourself. As a child you might have been deprived of love or warmth but now as an adult you can give it to yourself by loving that forsaken child inside you.
• In a relationship you are ALWAYS presented with what is needed in you. When you insist upon another to give you what you want, you deprive yourself from it. The relationships is a mirror of our needs and it is up to us to give it to ourselves. Relationship is a mirror.
• Being ill is not bad, being rejected is not bad, being poor is not bad, being unloved is not bad – what is ‘bad’ is your rejection of it rather than fully experiencing it. All these so-called ‘bad’ are your lessons.
• The moment you uproot a fear by fully experiencing it with love, forgiveness and acceptance, you have healed it for all eternity.

What is a soul?

A soul is the fragment of Spirit that is busy seeking itself. A soul is an individuated mind from the Universal Mind. It evolves from lifetime to lifetime always seeking itself until it melts back into the Whole or Spirit. It is never at rest and is always evolving and ofte repeating the same lessons over and over until it learns them and then moves on to higher ones.

In Reality there is only Oneness playing all the roles and therefore our ‘suffering’ emerges the more personal (separated) we are from Source. This Source or Oneness is hard to define because no words can ever express that which is beyond them. However, for the sake of using a word, we call it Unconditional Love.
In our mad rush to experience our true home we risk many things for a glimpse of this unconditional love believing, very often, that we can get it from another.
The soul experiences everything and that’s how it expands its capacity to love. What it rejects has to be repeated over and over until it is grasped as ‘good.’ This is why so many lifetimes are needed to stop resisting, rejecting, avoiding and pushing away. Life is to be fully experienced and in that experience to become a LOVE rather than a FEAR.

Soul Ages

There are 5 soul levels on the earth plane and they are infant, baby, young, mature and old soul. In ascendance there is Transcedent Soul age and Infinite Soul Age.

Infant souls
are more found in countries like Australia and Africa. Infant souls live in the backwoods or in isolated parts of the world where they can cope with survival issues without the complexity of the technological world. They mate with other infant souls like them and their relationships are more stable because they ‘happen’ without expectation or demands or needs.

Baby souls
are more prolific in East Asia but are also found in North American countries such as small towns who gravitate towards strong rules of right and wrong, usually traditionally religious and also found in such groups as Ku Klux Klan and other very deep-set beliefs about right and wrong.
The baby soul is characterized by the perception of ‘me’ and other separate others. Baby souls cling to unshakeable beliefs of right and wrong. They usually stick together by these rules. They can kill to maintain their beliefs and that’s how historically baby soul activities created the Crusades, the Inquisition, religious campaigns and missionary zeals.
Baby souls like to be solid citizens and love to wave their flag. They are seen as righteous and they love models like the highly orthodox minister. In the Old West they were the ones to form vigilanty groups and an ‘eye for eye’ type of justice.
Baby soul age is the birth of religion usually controlled by an appointed minister who preaches more about sin than love.
Baby souls stick together in relationships and rarely mix with other ages.

Young Souls
Then we have young souls which supposedly abound in North America, Germany and other developed countries. These young souls have many different levels but they are all interested in material gain, in having worldly toys such as cars, clothes and the middle and higher levels of young souls crave worldly success and fame. It has been said that developed countries are controlled by young souls who are in government, law and make up many of the army, police, firemen and athletes.
Independence to a young soul is a key issue. They have the ability to go and get what they want out of life. They are the ones who initiate good salesmen, money-making schemes, internet marketing and will pursue anything if they can become successful. Success is usually their goal whether it is in money, running, health foods or just keeping fit.
Young souls flock to well-known universities so they can get degrees of prominence. They also believe in competition, “there is you and me and I am going to win.” They pursue fame, wealth or power at any price. They are also totally identified with their bodies and will take extreme measures to keep looking young by using plastic surgery or improving looks as so many actors and filmstars have done.
Young souls do not question their motives. They have difficulty having insights into their own or other people’s behaviour.
Young souls also are frequently involved in international conflicts over baby soul countries (which are often at war).


Mature Souls
The Mature soul questions the young soul’s bumper sticker that says, “He who dies with the most toys wins.” This is when the questions start…
“What am I doing here?”
“Who am I?”
A mature soul doesn’t actually asks these questions directly but come as a feeling from Source as if there is an emptiness, as if they are cast away from their Home and something feels terribly missing. They miss their families but when with them they don’t feel the satisfaction. It is always ‘something’ out there needing to be met but do’r quite know what it is.
Relationships are very important to mature souls but they often sabotage the relationship they want most.
I am familiar with mature souls because they form my very dearest friends. My older daughter is a mature soul who is a spiritual guide to many people. Mature souls usually make excellent guides, counselors and teachers but often lack faith in themselves.
The reason for the extreme sensitivity and emotionality of this soul age is because it is nearing the end of its evolution and as a result often suffers a dark night of the soul. The suicide rate among mature souls is the highest of all ages according to these teachings.
Mature souls are psychic and can easily tune into other people’s psychy. They can make good intuitive readings and when not feeling sad they are warm, loving and even joyous.
It has been said that Ernest Hemingway, Van Gogh were mature souls who sought to express their visions in their own unique way.
The mature soul is a time of creative flowering and they become their best when they are creative whether in the arts, music, painting or acting.
The mature soul is rising rapidly within the last 30 years or so. And, since we are living in an unprecedented time in our history as far as evolution is concerned, the mature soul can allow itself to move deeper into the Old Soul age.
Mature souls would hide rather than seek recognition like young souls do. Most mature souls seek a mate that they can keep for an entire lifetime and once they find that ‘special’ one they will stick to it but, unfortunately often sabotage their best efforts. This contrary side of their nature is simply because they have just transcended the young soul age that was materialistic and yet their striving for higher and deeper evolution of their soul is met with resistance like being caught in two opposite sides. Yet again, if they become determined to love who they are (their essence) then the sky’s the limit.
They are usually quite attractive physically and they carry an air of nobility.

Old Soul
Old souls are different from mature souls in that they are more sure of themselves and have found peace. They get attracted to mature souls but the relationship usually suffers because they are more detached while mature souls love to fix and point out what is wrong. Old souls have minimum needs and usually love their aloneness and simple lives.
Old souls are usually self-employed and keep to themselves but often quite friendly and easy-going. They are not interested in getting ahead but prefer to be left alone to do their thing. They follow their own draummer and may even appear eccentric at times.
Old soul types are often attracted to mature souls but the relationship is not often easy because Old Souls are more detached and although riendly and warm would rather be left alone than having demands made upon them.
Contrary to popular belief, old souls prefer the quiet life and when they publish a book would prefer not to be made a fuss over. The reason most people think that older souls are popular and would be well-know is because there are many teachers who publish many books and are well-known for their teachings, however, these are often high level mature souls.

Within each soul age there are seven levels of evolution and according to Michael’s channeled teachings it takes about a hundred lifetimes to go from one soul age to another with the exception of the mature soul who takes less time to rise to the level of old soul.

Old Souls are not plentiful and so relationships between them is grand when it happens but is not often the case. Mature and old souls often mix. It can be successful when the mature soul can accept more the detachment of the old soul. And, the old soul to accept the drama of the mature soul.

Questions and Answers

I did enjoy reading your booklet. The soul levels were new to me and fascinating. It helps explain a lot when you look around at the world and people. I also enjoyed reading a bit about your own experiences, it makes it very ‘relatable.’

Thank you, The wonderful thing about knowing these soul-ages is that there is greater sensitivity and understanding of how we are all One evolving towards our true Home, and yet it is all already within.

You say, ‘Everyone is homesick and that’s why we all seek a good relationship without knowing it’ yet you also say that you can give yourself the love you never did before. So does this mean that it is, or it is not, possible to be happy without a relationship?

The wonderful thing about our journey is that everything is karmic and before us to learn what we need to learn. Therefore if you don't have a relationship or do not want one then that's your journey as karmically 'arranged' by YOU for your own evolution. Nothing happens by chance and there are no accidents.
We reach a point in our life where we become paradoxical to ourselves due to misalignment with the conscious and subconscious desires. For example, you might crave a relationship to share your life while and it feels sincere yet subconsciously would rather be free without commitment. Once you fully know what you want above all, then you can attract it into your life.
If being alone is the best way for you to expand then so be it.

I ask this due to my own situation. I have been alone now over 2 years. I have dated only person in this time – for 2 hours. Sometimes I wonder if I will ever meet a suitable partner and sometimes I wonder if I can even be bothered. Then, more recently, I found myself thinking whether I want to live my life alone, and the answer was no, so I have started making some efforts to ‘date’, but I am not very motivated. I ask myself: Is this unhealthy? Am I kidding myself? Can you be okay alone? Can I actually have the sort of relationship that my heart seems to know about?

This is a common dilemma with most mature-souls. If you focus on what is truly needed within you such as the grasp of your true nature then what you truly need will surface and even materialize.

You wrote " the soul experiences everything and that's how it expands its capacity to love. Does this mean when we have experienced many experiences that we can now have a better understanding of what others go through and be more compassionate towards others. It is like the old saying when you have walked in another's shoes you can fully grasped what they are going through. Less judgement of the person and situation.

That's exactly the point. We are here on earth to experience directly every emotion. The reason we are human is to use that humanity for the greater evolution towards BEING, which is our true Home. Thus we have to experience human love before we can experience unconditional love. Unconditional love is our Home.

How would someone know where they are within the 7 levels of that particular soul?

It is all done intuitively. When emotional pain is directly experienced will lead you automatically into the level you are. All levels are our level of allowing fear and pain to teach us love. Each level brings us closer to unconditional love.


I feel that we can hold ourselves back from our evolution by choosing or rather only looking at the fear and not the love that is actually there.

Yes, when we focus on a fear rather than directly allow its experience then we make the fear 'real' to us and we get caught in it. However, if we directly experience the fear as a need for greater love, then we use fear as a catalyst for greater love expansion. In other words, see the fear not as a hindrance or a block but a step towards greater love unfoldment.


When you talk about being ill is not bad, being rejected is not bad, being unloved is not bad, being poor is not bad, what is bad is your rejection of it rather than fully experiencing it. " All these so called bad is our lessons.

Yes-- everything that we call 'bad or 'wrong' is simply our experience of what is NOT love. Therefore rather than trying to change it, deny it or indulge in it, we could use it for greater compassion, self-respect, expansion, understanding.
A young soul would look at a criminal and says, "hang him!!" while a mature soul would feel the pain of both victim and victimizer. An Old soul would look and say, " they are learning a lot what doesn't work." because the understanding is -- only LOVE works!

What could be the reason for the attraction of old souls to mature souls?
Old-souls are attracted to the experience of intensity because they are filled with love of life. They find mature-souls intense and energetic. Unless the mature soul is on a high level there is bound to create too much melodrama and negativity. This negativity will eventually drain the very energy that first attracted the old-soul and lack of communication occurs. The lower level-mature souls believe that their negativity is real and so indulge in it causing a big gap between them.

How can I learn more about these soul-ages?
Study Michael’s Teachings and quite a few books have been written on the subject.

I am afraid that knowing these soul-ages will make me judgmental!
Judgment occurs when we use such knowledge as an ego tool to defend our position. However, such wonderful information is bound to bring humility, compassion and understanding of the human condition. How can you judge someone wrong when you realize they can’t help where they are at. Rather it brings acceptance, tolerance and understanding.

Are young souls attracted to mature and old-souls?
Definitely but the relationships won’t last. For example, a young soul might feel the physical and sexual attraction much more than an old-soul. Many young-soul men are attracted to mature-soul women. Such women hold an allure and appeal to the young-soul but the moment they try to possess the mature-soul woman they make their biggest blunder.

What is the highest percentage of soul-ages?
It depends upon what country you are referring to. North America abounds in young souls and that’s why it is such a rich materialistic country. Achievers and success-oriented individuals are young-souls who are always looking for a score one way or another.
Repressed countries are often baby-soul ages who express their power through their religious beliefs. Dictators are often baby-souls who try to overpower others by their beliefs. Beliefs are the main-stay of baby-souls. This was evident by Nazism and the lives of Hitler, Mussolini, Goering and others whose beliefs (propaganda) was their main focus point.

Can we control someone’s soul-age either through helping them or teaching?
The need for control is still evident in baby-soul age, young-age and including mature-age in different degrees, of course. Baby-souls try to control through force. Young souls try to control by persuation and mature-souls control through subtle means such as manipulation of words and hints. However, all expansion and evolution is based on unconditional love where full acceptance rather than control is the focus.

How can we help another to evolve and expand?
By fully loving them as they are which is not easy, but it is the only way that works. People are only changed through acceptance and never through coercion or control.

You talk about soul-ages as they evolve through time, but what about here-now as the eternal ISness?
Excellent question! It is at this point that we accelerate our evolution, that is, when we recognize that nothing is happening and all lifetimes are contained within this Now-moment itself. The paradox is this – that we cannot see that time and space do not exist until we evolve to the point of seeing that nothing ever took place and all souls are fragments of the same BEING that we already are in this very here-now moment.



What is it that evolves?
It is vibration as it gets finer and finer. We evolve as if we spin faster and faster until we disappear and find that we have always been Home in the One-Self.
When I started out with Advaita teaching I was completely immersed in it but disregarded the human element. Remember you are a HUMAN BEING. The human is a becoming-process and ever evolving until it merges with its on BEING. BEING does not evolve, it does not learn, it does not accumulate or move but ‘IS’ itself. So we act as if we are a human form until all movements reach such a vibration through allowing, forgiving, accepting, surrendering that there is only BEING known as Unconditional Love or the Eternal Home. It is like climbing a very tall ladder that reaches beyond the clouds. Each step up makes us see more of what is underneath us until we reach the top and realize we had never gone anyplace but have been always here and now and everything surrounding us is US. In reaching the top we had such a connection with All-That-Is
that there is only ‘IS’ and has never been anything else but only appeared so. And the paradox is this – we keep ‘becoming’ until the Infinite soul-age is reached and then we function from a dimension that defies any explanation or description.

Little-known Way to rise above stuckness

Many people feel emotionally stuck in these days of great shifting energy. We are evolving in a way unprecedented in history. This following video is a compliment to the first one uploaded 3 days ago. The first had to do with understanding stuckness and this one has to do with rising above it. Here it is...

Truly Burt, what is LOVE?

Can you explain to me how sexuality and spirituality are the same? Sometimes sex disgusts me because it lacks love. Can you clarify?


We can never know love fully simply because it is the eternal truth itself. We are always learning about love in one form or another. Our journey on earth is about the discovery of our true nature of Being as LOVE itself.

The major lesson in Life is always the same -- it is LOVE!! Throughout history people have thought that God is an entity outside themselves and that's how all religions were started. GOD IS LOVE itself!

LOVE can express physically (sex); mentally (communication); emotionally (as neediness); spiritually (as Oneness). When love is expressed, it grows until we realize that LOVE is all there is. When we express love in its crudest form such as possessiveness, lust, control and perversion it is usually because we do not know any better or because we still happen to be on the still physical Density of vibration. However, even if this we do NOT make wrong then eventually a part of us will ask "What is it I want?" and it is here that we find that through possession, lust or what have you, we are looking for belonging, for oneness, for reaching out...in other words, we are looking for genuine love. Therefore it is through inquiring and accepting we grow and NOT making things wrong. When we make anything wrong then it grows in its 'wrongness' until it becomes a monster. This is why people eventually become mad, totally insane or totally perverted because they make wrong whatever is happening. Everyone is looking for the same thing but if one happens to be 'physical-oriented' then he/she will choose the physical express of lust, self-gratification and personal neediness. This can't be helped unless we sincerely ask, "What is it I want; what am I seeking?"

It is through awareness of what is happening that we grow and discover that it is genuine true love we seek....but never ever make anything wrong because then it will own you. Please do not see crude sex and lust as wrong but only 'ignorance' of the true meaning of love. The moment you have tolerance, understanding and non-judgment towards what you had considered 'wrong' before, then your heart opens and will find that EVERYONE is looking for the same thing. Once you fully see and understand this then you will see LOVE (God) everywhere. Another fear s also fear of money (which is love as abundance). Many spiritual seekers fear money that it will corrupt them and therefore they are making 'money' as 'wrong.' Then they will suffer lack and that's not spiritual. Spirituality is SPIRIT and therefore LOVE itself. See it everywhere and you start seeing God everywhere and that's the true abundant life. When you see God everywhere (LOVE) then every need will be fulfille; every want will be realized because God (love) is goodness itself and loves to give to its children. Please keep these in mind always.

The utter simplicity of Truth!

My Mind keeps me locked in its continual activity. What can I do?

Anything you try to do about your mental activity is more individual mind controlling individual mind. This is what frustration is! Try an experiment -- Sit very still and ask yourself, "I will be alert for the next thought that will show up!" and as you relax watching for what the next thought could be you will find yourself temporarily empty of thought. Why? Simply because wayward thoughts are unconscious and the moment you become conscious of what is taking place the activity comes to a halt. Thnk a thought and then try to capture it, see what happens!
Just as the human mind is incessantly thinking, so is BEING empty and tranquil.
Watch this video...

The Open Secret to all spiritual questions

Won't it be wonderful if we found a secret to answer all spiritual (Life) questions? Here's good news -- There is such a secret but it is an Open Secret because everyone knows it and yet never make use of it. I certainly took it for granted even after my experience with Bhagavan Ramana Maharshi in 73 It never occured to me, even then, that this secret he revealed was what I experienced 27 years later in the year 2000. One day, in utter exhausted frustrated over a relationship that I faced in catch-22 also known as between a-rock-and-a-hard-place, that I threw my hands up in the air and acknowledged my full ignorance regarding the solution of this problem. This surrender to Bhagavan brought me the experience of being a HUMAN BEING. It was these two open-secret words that clarified 27 years of reading, study and practice revealing this simple 'formula.' The words "Human Being" revealed to me more in those two minutes that in the past 27 years. It was the year of January 2000 when it became crystal clear I am a human being - a dualistic creature with two opposing forces ready to meet, anytime, to awaken the whole Being.

The Being plays the human role as if it is an individual and separate. It uses the human to seek for its completion forever feeling a lack or missing something. It forces it to seek in the world of matter until futility grabs its attention that what one is seeking is oneself -- One-Self (Unified Field Thoery). The moment one recognizes that he/she is seeking itself which is the Being whose nature is awareness, then there is the opening of the heart to ALLOW all the seeking (known also as suffering, frustration, confusion and fear) and through that ALLOWING become one with the BEING. The Being is ALLOWING itself known also as love, acceptance, forgiveness, openness, innocence, guiltlessness and compassion. Therefore as the human starts feeling the compassion towards its own fears and guilt it is immediately forgiven and thus the human and the being become integrated as One. It is this wholeness which is the awakening of the human-Being.

How to be intimate with yourself

When the webcam video "Power in daily life" appeared stating that we focus on what we don't want rather than what we want, people wrote back saying -- "I know what I don't want but I am not clear what I want."
This is a common dilemma because all our emotional feelings of unconscious guilt such as the feeling of lack, heaviness, sadness, depression and loneliness and so on are the hunger and yearning of the soul to know itself. There is nothing wrong with emotional pain and we can literally use it to expand the knowledge of our true nature by feeling the feeling. Watch these videos. Here is part one...

How to find peace in these changing times

We are living in times of great change (2010-2012) and most people are feeling its impact. Everything is coming to a head. People are no longer hiding diplomatically from what they feel but telling it like it is. All emotions, long held within us are now finally coming to the surface. These times of great change are affecting not only our world politics and economy but our emotions and relationships.
The question is, “How can we find peace within this great inevitable change?”
Since everything is change then we have to find what is constant. It is imperative that we find what is constant in order to find peace. In fact, this great change is happening as a means for the evolution and shift of consciousness.

This article emerged from two sources. First are the flow of emails I get worldwide from concerned and even frightened individuals. Secondly it emerged from my own experience and the change that is happening in my own life. This forced me to turn inward toward the Higher Wisdom and ask for guidance.

The 'voice' (silent knowing) emerged as great compassion explaining that these times are very volatile and very open at the same time. This meant that if you ever had someone not telling you the truth of how they felt, this time they would lay it down on the line without holding back. Angers, grievances, old dislikes and judgments will all surface at this time of great change. Men, who are very yang and not given to sensitivity will start feeling feelings they never felt before. Everything is surfacing. Since the world is primarily run by men who are power-conscious there will start being a change to bring balance by introducing the power of the female (compassion, tenderness, uderstanding, clarity, love. ) Now we are at a time (2010-2012) where the time has come for the balance of power to shift.
It has already begun, and it shall continue to prosper until the balance of power lies predominantly in the hands of the female aspect. The female aspect will rule the world, that is, the softness instead of the hardness of war -- greater kindness, sweetness, gentility, compassion and feeling the feelings without shame, guilt or fear.

Those who are now in touch with the female aspect such as 'spiritual' teachers shall come to guide the world. These ones will find the answers of constancy beyond change within them. It will come from their stillness, the inner voice of silent knowing. Men, as a rule involved in world affairs and politics have lost touch with their emotions and failed to evolve. Now the shift is happening where the challenge shall force the balance towards the female principle. Relationships are now on the verge of collapse in most areas and many couples are beginning to feel the strain of facing the truth of their nature. Emotions are surface feelings that have to be experienced fully and completely. It is through these emotions that we will finally find what is even deeper, which is that which is constant. Intelligent and sensitive women are finding it hard in these times to communicate their true feelings because they are also faced by the challenge of the male energy. Female energy does not mean women anymore than male energy means just men. Both energies exist as polarities within both men and women. Men, as a rule, are governed by yang male energy while women are rued by yin female energy.

So, how do we find balance? We find balance by knowing that change is constant and always leading towards greater wholeness. In order to find peace within this constant change we have to discover the three ‘rules’ that NEVER change. These three ‘rules’ of unchanging constancy are what will give us peace, understanding, balance, compassion and joy in life.

Please pay close attention to these three CONSTANTS because without them there will be no peace nor understanding of what is happening. These three constants never ever change. In fact they never had a beginning and are beyond time and space. Here they are:
1. You Exist. This is the first constant. Therefore, the first constant in our life is 'YOU.' The fact is that you exist and, you know this beyond a doubt. This fact will never ever change. You will always exist in one form or another and even though the body may drop, yet, another form will take its place. This first rule of constancy is imperative to FEEL within your Being. Once you start seeing this obvious rule of constancy that will never ever change then you will find your true nature. Your true nature is consciousness combined with the awareness of it. It is this awareness that is constant.

2. You are the One. The second constant rule is that YOU is all there is and YOU is the Source. The Source is ONE. Everything is interdependent, interrelated and interconnected. Everything is moving towards Source of "I AM" -- therefore "I AM" is the only constant.

3. The circle of perception. This is the consciousness that although changing yet it is always contained within the awareness of it that never does change.
There is no reality 'out there' at all but only what we perceive to be so. This is imperative to know. What you believe to be wrong is only wrong to your perception. What you believe to be right is only right to your perception. Whatever you feel is happening ‘out there’ is only ‘real’ to your perception of it.
The 'you' you think you are is the feeling, living and experiencing whatever you are perceiving. Your perception is your choice and is always choosing between love or fear. The paradox is that there is only love and therefore fear is a frustration of love. This means that your feelings of fear, which cannot be helped as they arise, are the 'lessons' you still need to FEEL inside you as perception.

This perception is now coming to a head in these critical times of great change. Emotions are surfacing more than ever to be met with allowance and forgiveness, that is, to FEEL them as okay and not even wish them away, and that's how balance is restored.
The third rule is therefore the circle of perception, that is, what we perceive returns to us as 'reality.' To make it even clearer – what goes around comes around. If we perceive an ugly world then we feel ugly, depressed. If we perceive love despite what we feel is happening then that's what will be in our 'reality.'

It is okay to have negative feelings arise for these are beyond our control. These negatives are essential and show us where we are lacking balance. They are our 'lessons' to help us towards greater stability through allowing, acceptance and love. We can 'choose' through perception (by understanding) that our world is nothing more than our perception of it and has no other reality other than that.
We have the gift of imagination and what we imagine can materialize the moment we believe it. Imagination is perception. Perception is not good or bad but simply what the mind perceives according to its belief system. There is no reality ‘out there’ but only our “I AM” nature. This nature “just IS” and therefore being Oneness is known as LOVE. When we deviate, in our perception from this love then we suffer separation created by our perception. Separation cannot exist because there is only “I AM.”

If we can abide in these three rules of constancy then we can meet any adversities that are arising at these times of great change and thus profit by them. Explore these three rules of constancy and you will evolve at an accelerated rate. Remember that when the challenges arise unexpectedly, they are bound to be overwhelming at times as they represent our deep lessons for balance and greater evolution of consciousness. There is no wrong in this world except our perception of wrong.
Again, how do we meet these ‘lessons’ of fear known also as desperation, anger, depression, grievance, hate, negativity and all forms of separation? Meet this feeling as something that you can’t help feeling, and yet you are NOT a victim of it. You can allow it by FEELING it in your stillness without trying to get rid of it or controlling it in any way. Have the courage my friend to do this when you feel as if giving up on the world through desperation. Sit with this feeling of separation and relax into it through its bodily sensation without thinking about it. Feel the feeling. Then having done so say ‘thank you.’ This simplicity takes courage but its rewards are far far greater than can be imagined.

NOTE: If you have further questions please email me at burtharding@shaw.ca